today morning . i got a massge of marrige from a frined in the hometown .

she tell me she will marry on 10.16.2008 and ask me to take off to attent your wedding .

i want to but no off time . i am so gloomy .

i dot know  what wil gift for her? another friend tell me that she will buy a wash mechine .

but i have a lot of money on me now . so unhappy .

i want to my another friend to take money to her instead of me but i dot know how much should give .

 the standard is RMB200 is much more . but it is not enough in shanghai .

i am afriad to gift for others when meet this solutions .

who tell me how i should do ?