在本书的每一章中，你都可以发现增进爱情与维持关系的新秘诀。每个新发现都可增加你创造满意关系的能力。 In each chapter of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus you will discover new secrets for creating loving and lasting relationships. Each new discovery will increase your ability to have fulfilling (gratify, satisfy) relationships. 爱情需要用心 GOOD INTENTIONS ARE NOT ENOUGH 恋爱总是奇异的，它让人感到永恒，好像爱情至死不渝。我们天真地相信自己可以避免父母亲曾有的问题，不会遇上爱情死亡的机会，确信爱情就是两人在一起，注定永远快乐的共同生活。 Falling in love is always magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after. 但当日子一天天过去，奇异的感觉减少，男人期待女人以男人的方式思想和行动，女人期待男人以女人的方式感觉和表现的态度就原形毕露了。若没有清楚了解我们的不同，我们就不会花时间彼此了解和尊重，反而会变得不断要求、忿恨、冲动、主观和固执己见。 But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like men, and women expect men to feel and behave like women. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to understand and respect each other. We become demanding, resentful, judgmental, and intolerant. 　　爱情在强烈的爱的意图下继续死亡。问题莫名其妙地爬升，忿恨形成，沟通破裂，不信任增加，导致两人间互相拒绝与压抑——爱情的魔力消失了。 　　我们自问： 　　爱情的死亡是怎么发生的？ 　　为何爱情的死亡会发生？ 为什么让我遇上爱情的死亡？ With the best and most loving intentions love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in. The resentments build. Communication breaks down. Mistrust increases. Rejection and repression result. The magic of love is lost. We ask ourselves: How does it happen? Why does it happen? Why does it happen to us? 为了回答这些问题，我们伟大的心灵必须探究聪慧、复杂的哲学与、心理学模式。但爱情死亡只不过是旧曲重唱，几乎每个人都会碰上。 To answer these questions our greatest minds have developed brilliant and complex philosophical and psychological models. Yet still the old patterns return. Love dies. It happens to almost everyone. 每一天，有成千上万的人在寻找配偶共同经历特别的爱情感觉；每一年，成千上万的夫妻以爱结合，然后因失去爱情感觉而痛苦分离。那些能够维持爱情热度到结婚的，只有百分之五十会结婚，另外百分之五十虽仍维持在一起，但可能他们都不满意，基于忠贞与义务地在一起，或者害怕重新开展新恋情。 Each day millions of individuals are searching for a partner to experience that special loving feeling. Each year, millions of couples join together in love and then painfully separate because they have lost that loving feeling. From those who are able to sustain love long enough to get married, only 50 percent stay married. Out of those who stay together, possibly another 50 percent are not fulfilled. They stay together out of loyalty and obligation or from the fear of starting over. 很少人能够真正随着爱情成长，但不容否认，确实有人能够做到。只有当男人和女人能够尊重和接受彼此的不同，爱情才有机会繁盛。 Very few people, indeed, are able to grow in love. Yet, it does happen. When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom. 经由了解两性之间潜藏的不同，我们可以更成功地给与及接受暗藏于心中的爱情。认知和接受男女的不同可以创造解决问题的答案，而使我们能心想事成。更重要的是，可知悉如何彼此亲爱与如何支持我们在乎的人。 By validating and accepting our differences, creative solutions can be discovered whereby we can succeed in getting what we want. And, more important, we can learn how to best love and support the people we care about.Through understanding the hidden differences of the opposite sex we can more successfully give and receive the love that is in our hearts. 爱情是奇妙的，如果我们记住彼此的不同，爱情是可以长久的。 Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.